Feelings of Loneliness

 

Regardless of age, background or culture, people experience loneliness at least at some point in their lives. And that can be an emotional experience. It can cause disappointment and frustration. It can cause us to generate negative thoughts and lower our self-worth. Of course we enjoy doing things and spending time on our own at times. But in the post I want to address unwanted loneliness, the type of loneliness that generates those creeping negative thoughts. 

Perhaps you have moved to a new town or city away from the former relationships you had formed. You have experienced a break-up or you are going to a new school. Perhaps you are going through a difficult situation and expected that your family or friends might be there for you but weren't. 

Once you have identified the cause of these emotional feelings, you may find that it is much more easier to overcome unwanted loneliness. Now, there are many useful tips when it comes to solving unwanted loneliness, but from my own experience, one of the best things you can do is change your perspective and thinking. 

How much of the way we feel and how we interact with people stems from our perspective and thinking. Inner thoughts about ourselves are so powerful. Sometimes our mind can trick us into thinking that we are so lonely and friendless but that is certainly NOT the case. So my first suggestion is, before the start of each day or at the end of each day, search and note down reasons that convince you that you are not alone. And please, don't compare your situation with the 'unrealism' presented in music, TV, and films. 

In a similar vein, unwanted loneliness can at times stem from how we view people online or offline. Instead of having a critical and negative view of people, try to cultivate a more positive attitude and perspective. Don't hold back from letting people know the good that you see in them.